31 Things Christians Need to Know About Domestic Violence
Sometimes I post in-depth articles on a certain aspect about domestic abuse. Today I want to give a general overview of 31 things Christians need to know about domestic violence. Each of these points deserves elaboration, which I will not do for sake of brevity. However, I hope they will spur your thinking and motivate […]
Continue readingNo, War Room Prayers Won’t Change An Abusive or Cheating Husband
When the movie War Room came out in 2015, right away I began seeing lots of articles and even products for sale along the lines of “War Room Prayers to Pray for Your Cheating Husband” or “War Room Prayers for Marriage Restoration”, “War Room Prayers for Your Troubled Marriage”, etc. I didn’t pay much attention […]
Continue readingCan We Stop Treating Christian Wives Like Glorified Prostitutes?
A while back, Focus on the Family shared a series of articles on their Facebook page regarding how wives can meet their husband’s sexual needs. Focus on the Family is an organization that many people look to for what they believe is good, Biblical advice about marriage and family. The problem, though, is that much […]
Continue readingWhat Does the Bible Say about Divorce for Abuse?
When a woman* finds that her husband is not a safe person either physically or emotionally, the biggest question I often see her struggle with is, “What now? Divorce is not an option. I made vows before God, and I must keep them.” This is a personal question that each person must answer individually before […]
Continue reading3 Ways the Church Can Care Well for Victims of Domestic Abuse
I have bad news and good news. The bad news is that many churches do not do a great job of supporting domestic abuse victims. Even those who express a desire to help have often failed to accomplish that. (I wrote a guest post for my friend Rebecca Davis that explores some of the reasons […]
Continue readingHow Debi Pearl Enables Abuse in Marriage
Several people have requested me to take a look at Created to Be His Helpmeet by Debi Pearl and offer my thoughts. This is not a complete review of the book by any means; however, these are some of the more blatant examples of the ways Debi Pearl’s teachings enable abuse in marriage. 1. Debi […]
Continue readingWhy I Have a Problem With Most Christian Marriage Books
I can be pretty hard on a lot of Christian marriage books, blog posts, webinars, etc. (Note: I’m not here to be hard on the author himself/herself. I assume that an author has good intentions unless there is proof otherwise. Critiquing the content is different than critiquing the person, and it’s the content I’m here […]
Continue readingWords of Hope for the One in Desperation
Corrie ten Boom and her family resisted the Nazi invasion of the Netherlands by hiding Jewish people in their home. Unfortunately they were discovered and arrested. Eventually Corrie and her sister Betsie were sent to the Ravensbruck concentration camp. Ravensbruck was a work camp, where the prisoners were literally worked to death. 96,000 women died […]
Continue readingDo You Have a Financially Controlling Husband?
Financial control is one very effective method that a controlling husband* can use to maintain power and control over his wife. It is important to understand the overall pattern of abuse and how financial control plays into that. (Read more here about what the pattern of abuse looks like and be sure to download the […]
Continue reading“My Husband Choked Me”
I’ve heard the heart-wrenching accounts of women who recount with terror, “My husband choked me.” How terrifying it must be to have someone’s hands around your throat, hurting you and restricting your breathing. The correct term for this experience is strangulation, and in many states it is a felony offense. Strangulation is the ultimate form […]
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