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Resources About Abuse in Christian Marriages

Below are some of the best resources I’ve found about abuse in Christian marriages.

It seems so dichotomous to use the word “abuse” and “Christian” in the same context. Abuse looks nothing like Christ, and those who claim to be his followers should never be perpetuating emotional, spiritual, or physical harm to other people — especially the one they have promised to love, honor, and cherish.

On this page I will include resources about how to recognize abuse in a Christian marriage and how to respond to it.

This page will continue to grow as I vet more resources. Please note that a recommendation is not necessarily an unconditional endorsement. If there is a resource you would like me to be aware of, feel free to email me at info@hopeforhurtingwives.com.

Disclosure: This page contains affiliate links.

Recognizing and Understanding Abuse in Christian Marriages

Books

Unholy Charade: Unmasking the Domestic Abuser in the Church

Why Does He Do That? Inside the Minds of Angry and Controlling Men (not a Christian book, but one of the best resources for understanding an abuser’s thought processes)

How He Gets Into Her Head: The Mind of the Male Intimate Abuser (another non-Christian, yet excellent resource for understanding the methods an abuser uses to entrap his victim)

The Emotionally Destructive Marriage

Is It Me? Making Sense of Your Confusing Marriage

Why is He So Mean to Me?

Articles

What is Coercive Control?

Podcasts

Leslie Vernick

Betrayal Trauma Recovery

Speaking Out on Sex Abuse (Educational about all forms of abuse and how abusers operate)

Videos

When Love Hurts, Part One
When Love Hurts, Part Two
When Love Hurts, Part Three
When Love Hurts, Part Four

When Love Hurts Video Library (different organization than the videos above)

Webinars and Conferences

The Dynamics of Abuse with Bob Hamp and Gretchen Baskerville

Protect the Flock: Identifying and Responding to Domestic Abuse in the Church

Church as a Refuge: Part 1

Church as a Refuge: Part 2

Church as a Refuge: Part 3

 

YouTube Channels

Called to Peace Ministries

Leslie Vernick

 

Personal Stories of Abuse in Christian Marriages

Books

Black and White Bible, Black and Blue Wife

Called to Peace: A Survivor’s Guide to Finding Peace and Healing after Domestic Abuse

I’ll Pray for You: A Christian Woman’s Guide to Surviving Domestic Violence

Prisoners in the Shed: The Harrowing True Journey from Captivity to Hope

You Think You Know But You Have No Idea: A Story of Marital Rape and Domestic Abuse in a Christian Marriage

Rock Bottom and Faithless: Defeating the Lies of Domestic Abuse with God’s Truth


Podcasts

Groomed for an Abusive Marriage: Alyssa Wakefield, Part 1
Groomed for an Abusive Marriage: Alyssa Wakefield, Part 2

Documentaries

Sins of the Father, Part One
Sins of the Father, Part Two

 

Church Response to Abuse in Christian Marriages


Books

When Home Hurts: A Guide for Responding Wisely to Domestic Abuse in Your Church

Becoming a Church that Cares Well for the Abused

 

Articles

3 Reasons Christians Fail to Care Well for Victims of Domestic Abuse
3 Ways the Church Can Care Well for Victims of Domestic Abuse

Support for Churches

Called to Peace Church Partnership Program

Become a Trained Advocate

Called to Peace Advocacy Training
Give Her Wings Academy

 

Understanding Divorce for Abuse in Christian Marriages

Books

The Life Saving Divorce: Hope for People Leaving Destructive Relationships

Divorce and Remarriage in the Church


Pamphlets

God’s Protection of Women (free download, used by permission)

Articles

What Does the Bible Say about Divorce for Abuse?

 

Finding Healing After Abuse

Books

Called to Peace: A Survivor’s Guide to Finding Peace and Healing after Domestic Abuse

Rock Bottom and Faithless: Defeating the Lies of Domestic Abuse with God’s Truth

Suffering and Heart of God: How Trauma Destroys and Christ Restores

Your Restoration Journey: Rediscovering Yourself and Your Faith After Divorce

Hope for Healing from Domestic Abuse


Podcasts

Held and Healed with Heather Elizabeth

The Place We Find Ourselves


YouTube Channels

Jen Grice

Support Groups

Called to Peace Ministries (fill out form to be added to a local or online support gorup)

Wilderness to Wild

Arise Healing Community

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