As someone who has not personally experienced domestic abuse, I’ve been asked why I care so much about this topic. My answer is how can I ??? care so much? Must something affect me directly before I can care about it? The pattern I often see played out in conversations about abuse is baffling to […]
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Sometimes people show a lack of compassion toward abuse victims because “they should have seen the red flags.” I’ve been observing this on some social media posts recently. It’s almost a “Well you got what you deserved because you were too stupid to avoid it” attitude. (First of all, do you realize how heartless that […]
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Recently I was made aware of a Christian school curriculum that stated, “A girl’s immodest dress can encourage sexual advances that lead a young couple into immorality, and sometimes date rapes are initiated by a girl’s immodest dress or allowance of sexual advances.” When I shared this on Facebook, encouraging parents to make sure their […]
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Many abuse victims have experienced their churches overtly taking a stance against them, even when the abuse was undeniably present. This would include throwing statements at the victim such as: “God hates divorce!” “It takes two to tango!” “You made your bed, now lie in it!” “God wants you to suffer for his glory.” If, […]
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We live in a world where information is available everywhere we look. Books, seminars, sermons, social media — there are so many avenues for speakers and authors to reach their audience. Authors and speakers who offer marriage advice for Christians are numerous, and they use all of these channels to spread their message. Some are […]
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Have you heard that God hates divorce? Have you been discouraged from pursuing divorce from an abusive spouse because divorce is something to be avoided at all costs? The problem with using the phrase “God hates divorce” to discourage any divorce is that the context of the scripture passage from which this idea comes is […]
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Many people believe that what they are experiencing or what someone else is experiencing is not abuse. What people often expect abuse to look like is certain types of incidents like yelling and hitting. Additionally, even if incidents of that nature have occurred, most people are still not ready to identify it as abuse. Their thinking may […]
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Most people would say they absolutely stand against abuse of any type. BUT…in all actuality I have seen victim after victim further traumatized by people who say they want to help. Perhaps you are thinking, “Well I would never do that! I genuinely care about people and would do anything I can to help!” Great! […]
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